Originally Posted by
NightingaleSynd 
Do you think there's a possibility that being with someone who is always clean and sober could help him? I want to be there for him even if it's not in a romantic capacity
You cannot help him... Repeat after me, YOU CANNOT HELP HIM... I learned this lesson the hard and painful way when I involved myself with a newly sober man...
If you want any kind of friendship with this man, I suggest finding an alanon meeting to attend and picking up the book Codependent No More by Melodie Beattie...