Devastated,
I just read your post to me on my other thread. That story of your Mother and her brother? is a good lesson for all of us. They do make it without us. Look at your son right now. Already got a job and is capable of taking care of himself. My son has done the same thing. It is so hard though when they pour it on.
I really think your husband is right and I wish we could think so logically without the emotions. It just takes practice for us. The last time I kicked my son out for drinking he got a drunk in public arrest. I could go to the judge and say he was drunk in public because I made him leave and locked him out. I won't do that because the rule here was no drinking at my home. He broke the rule so drunk in public was the consequence.
We need to keep practicing.
Hugs,
MG