Hey HP!
I feel your pain. If they only knew how bad it hurts us...well, it probably wouldn't change a thing actually!
I understand and I am going through a similar situation, they figure out how much they can drink and us not know...it gets tiring! Why don't they just say they are not going to give it up and quit trying to hide it from us so that we can make a sound decision to get on with our lives instead of trying to trust them again and going through the disappointment of their lies and deceitfulness over and over and over again!! Wondering if they are ever going to get and stay sober...sure wish I had a magic answer.
Sending you hugs!!