One more thought: Your inlaws may be thinking that time with his kids will help motivate your husband to stay sober. Any normal person would think that! Unfortunately, it's not the case, which you know too well. (My ABF's mom is still his primary "cheerleader", even though we have had many frank discussions about his affliction, which she doesn't deny. But she still says stuff like, "He just needs a job", a "purpose", a "schedule", whatever, and he'll get better!! Wishful, magical thinking, mom.)