Hi Dolly,
I know that for me the only way for me to find out where someone's head is at is to just come out and talk to them. After I cool down from running the 100 scenarios through my head most of which none were accurate anyway.
Nobody is perfect and people do goofy stuff sometimes. I try not to forget what I put others through and most of them were pretty understanding and even forgiving. I got a break here and there so I should probably follow suit.
It may be my business who I tell I have a problem to but I kind of made it a lot of other people's business the day I drug them into my sh**. Especially those who live with me and I don't recall me paying to much attention to what they asked or needed from me when I was drinking.
I'm just saying it always works better for me to just vent in a safe place before I go dragging my anger into any conversation.
Just like you did! Come on here and let all the anger out and think through it a little. Nice job!