Hi Dolly,
Our addiction can cause much frustration for our families. I had asked my daughter not to tell anyone about my drinking especially my mom and brother. She ended up telling them because she needed someone to talk to about it. I felt bad about it because when she told me she had she looked absolutely terrified!
During one of our conselling sessions she stated that she felt it was her "dirty little secret" and she just couldn't keep it to herself. Looking back I really had no right to put her in that position. Yes, it is my problem, but my problem was affecting her also.
This is just another perspective, I'm not judging your situation at all. This is just what my daughter had to do to keep her sanity.