I think the greatest loss my AH has sufferred is his internal compass, or whatever it is that tells us "Don't say that." "Decent people don't x/y/z" "Be careful with other people's belongings." "It's dangerous to go up and down the stairs with a BAC of .30 or greater" "Remain clothed when outside of the house" "I want to be interested in what others think is important and remain involved in their lives." It's really bad when the drinking makes someone break their OWN rules.