hi missing, your story is very close to mine, however, it was my mother with cancer and she died. i really understand what you are going through and i know it is tearing you apart. the up side of it is though- it is good to have someone with your parents at those dr visits because "they" will not be able to hear everything the dr is telling them, and an extra pair of ears will help to hear the things that they did not -sometimes they get fixated on one word and never hear the rest. you could also try to find some visiting nurses organization which may be able to come in and help around the house, the hospital may be able to guide you in that respect. i am sorry to hear you are going through this- you will definitely need some down time for yourself.