I just want to say thanks to both of you for sharing such pain here. I hope it is cathartic to get it out there, and i think you are both incredibly brave for sharing. Maybe spreading the pain around a little bit will lessen its impact on you. That's an interesting concept to me. We can all handle a small part of your pain, and put together maybe that takes away enough from you to help.
I have no prayers to help, but my thoughts are with you.