Hi and welcome.
Please make sure you are protecting yourself from pregnancy. Don't let him argue about it either. You are right to not want to bear the children of an active alcoholic.
I recently had to remind my AH (alcoholic husband) that he does not in fact drink because of me. That he would do it alone, with me, with someone else. That he has been drinking for almost twenty years. Don't for a second buy into that load of crap.
A different way to approach this, you asked? Focus on you. Not him. The longer you stay here and post and read, the more clear that will become to you. It's hard. So hard. So heartbreaking.
But you can't control him.
Please keep visiting. It will help. So many great people here, so welcoming.
I'm learning so much. Even things I already knew are easier to apply now with this support. I didn't say easy, just easier.
I'll take it!
