I thought about this question a fair amount when I realized I had a problem. Basically, I decided that labels don't really matter and all that mattered was that my consumption of alcohol was preventing me from being who I wanted to be and doing things I want to do, as well as helping me do things I later regretted.
Maybe some day I will be able to have a healthy relationship with alcohol, as I also don't really have physical withdrawal symptoms and I think my drinking is more situational than anything else. But right now, and this is a new thing for me as I give sobriety another go, I am only worrying about today. I am not worrying about never drinking again and how much I will miss it and how hard that sounds. I am taking it one day at a time. Its only been a week this time and I really want to know how it feels to have a couple of months sober.