Originally Posted by Tuffgirl

Wait...when we are dating it is our responsibility to ourselves to JUDGE others as we determine if they are relationship material for us!

When did we (people in general, more commonly found here at SR) decide "judging" others is bad, therefore we let others manipulate us and abuse us for fear of judging them as toxic people?

And her addiction can be changed. By her. Not by you. You can change your decision to date a person with an addiction, even if you fear you are judging her and finding her coming up short. Because she is, ya know. And she knows it too, deep down inside. She knows.