I think there is a difference between detachment & indifference and standing up for one's self & being in other's face. They can look the same on the surface, but it's what the motive behind them. Creating and sticking to boundaries was new to me in the program. I have had a lot of success with them. I am still learning and applying, which is all I can do. It's a lifelong thing, as UncleMeat said there. Bang on right.
For me, it's about learning to accept the things I cannot change (let go / detach / accept), the courage to change the things I can (boundaries / move past fear / spiritual growth) and the wisdom to know the difference (pray / conscious contact).
To me, there is no "win" in these things. You lose if these things disturb you, regardless of what "win" you get on the outside. Digging into your principles on your inventory will really open up to what gets you riled up and why. I had plenty of principles on my 4th. I am sure more will come over time.
