Yes, Sueski, I also agree---denial and immaturity. As you can see by reading on this board -- this is pretty standard stuff for an active alcoholic. Detach, detach.
If you feel good about the things you are doing for yourself---good! Keep going in that direction. It is very hard for co-dependents to allow others to suffer the consequences of their own behaviors---but, It must be done. You will get better at it.
dandylion