Originally Posted by
NYCDoglvr 
Very good advice. It isn't about your wife, it's about what you're going to do about your situation. There's nothing you can say or do that will affect your wife's alcoholism ... she will drink or not drink.
Yes. I thought I had reached a place where I my emotional state was not tied to hers, but I guess I have not, apparently I can still get caught up in it - I found it very difficult to maintain my detachment when she violated my no alcohol boundary.
I am really trying to follow the Alanon advice to avoid making a major decision until I can get back on an even keel. I see the wisdom in that, but this is driving me nuts, I may need some more separation from her.