Originally Posted by
kc1956 
I have not been drinking or taking any pills since June 3 so I am over my 30 days - my husband of 33 years left me with no warning back in Sept '12 and I started to self medicate so I wouldn't feel the pain. That didn't seem to be working. So I quit everything. I was doing fine till two days ago when he showed up in town with new girlfriend - 20 years his junior. I am a mess and really want to not feel this.
Girl, just face the feelings because using doesn't get rid of them. Any feelings you try to run from by using will still be waiting when you stop using. You have to learn to face them down, and I think you will realize they arent so scary. You are stronger than you are aware of, so know that. Besides, if you use, then you are letting him win, and we wouldn't want that, would we? Never let the actions of another person dull your shine..........EVER! You may not see it now, but it sounds like you are better off without him.