Well, we struggled a few months at first as I had to face him telling me the reality of the damage and pain I had caused not only to my kids but myself and him too.
I made the decision though that the changes I made had to be for me first, my kids second and to him third. Around the holidays everything seemed to pick up and was going really well. He bought me a new diamond engagement ring for Christmas and even though I knew his very large family knew of my issues I sucked it up and went to the family functions with me and the kids with a smile on my face and my head held high even though he was not at home.