I think you just have to realize its a journey, and you learn by trial and error. Obviously he is fragile emotionally right now, and this could even could have been triggered by any number of things. I had many things happen during early recovery that I wish Id handled a little differently, but we cant go back. We can do our best to apologize and then just try to move forward. It helped me to talk to my therapist, sometimes just to vent my feelings. She also suggested I write things out. And she always asked me to look a little deeper at my feelings - what was behind them. It helped a lot. And then going back and reading what I wrote I gained perspective on my own emotional state. So I would suggest this, and also keep coming here to SR - What is better than shouting out to the universe; where you know its all safe and sound.