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Old 07-06-2013, 02:43 PM
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BlueSkies1
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What's in it for you? Really. There are times to be selfish, this is one of them.
If you would like to hear amends from him, it would probably contain some parts that you would have liked to have heard two years ago, and fall short of your wishes also.
If it is going to trigger you to see him, then kindly suggest he write you a letter, or as Anvil said, state that you are not in a comfortable place to accept amends from him.
Do what is best for you. It won't be painful for him to not have to follow through. If hearing his amends would bring you relief, or a sense of validation, then listen to them.
All that above can be summed up in--go with your instinct on this.
I have heard amends. They were validating, which was important to me. They were not thorough, that would take days or weeks. But each person is different, and his amends might possibly be simply awful, as another person posted.
So if you listen, do that for yourself.
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