step 9 says to make direct amends to those we have harmed, except when to do so would injure them or others. if YOU are not in a place to accept his amends, that is OK, say so. and leave it at that. if you are uncomfortable or unsure, honor that and decline. if you aren't up to face to face, consider asking him to write a letter. if you aren't up for a letter....let it go.