Wow guys, thank you. All of you make excellent points and are helping me along in this thought process. If I go ahead with this, I definitely need to make sure that i have absolutely no expectations.
Beth- I have to admit that since I received his message it's all I have been able to think about. You're right that if I do not speak to him, it will just keep me wondering and keep him in my brain longer.
I just don't want to go into the conversation with any anger. It's hard not to be angry when I think of the hell he put me through. I just keep trying to remember that the only thing I would have control over in this situation is my reaction. At the end of the day, I loved that jerk and I really do want him to be healthy. I have no doubt that it's gonna hurt though. The truth always does!
I sincerely thank you for the replies. I feel a little more relaxed already.