This has been a great post for me to read. I have been sober for 7 months and am beginning to realize that my relationship of almost 4 years may not make it due to the fact that my bf is an alcoholic. He doesn't drink like I did but an alcoholic nonetheless. When I was growing up my mother had a black-belt in Al-Anon as my dad was an alcoholic. Generally I've been focused on the "newcomer thread" for my recovery from alcohol but glad I found this area!