Musinglizzy, you stepped up to the plate when your friend was in crisis and hit a home run to take care of her.
But the crisis is over, and it is time she takes responsibility for her own life, her own kids, her own pets, and her own living situation.
You are entitled to look after the needs of your family and yourself first.
I agree with Lexiecat, it is time to give her a deadline to find her own more semi-permanent arrangements. She has options to pursue about getting a court order to get back into her own home, especially if her husband was abusive.
I found Melodie Beattie's book Co-Dependent No More very helpful in learning what is my path to walk, and what belonged to my XAH. Before I read that, before I came to SoberRecovery, I thought it was my responsibility to take care of HIS needs, first, regardless of the consequences to me. It isn't.
Take care, we're all here for you,
ShootingStar1