I do believe you could be right. I can admit that I can be 100% wrong. For me, I just like to give every method a try before ruling it out. If in fact, it turns out this path is leading Mr. Hero in the wrong direction, I have no problems shifting gears.
MetallicThorn,
I think you could be getting it.
First, based on
my years of personal experience with my own addiction and that
of friends and family members, she is absolutely 100% correct when she says,
The answer starts with this: Stop. Putting. Alcohol. In. Your. Body.
It is the only way to begin the journey to recovery. Everything else is just
words.
What path is it that you think Mr. Hero is on now, and what other "methods" are you
considering for him?
It has already been stated, but I will add to that chorus,
nothing you do, nothing you say, no feelings or emotions you have for Mr. Hero
will make him stop drinking if that is his choice.
Did you read the story/analogy about Buddha and the poisoned arrow?
I am interested in your take on it, and how it might relate to your position on Mr. Hero's alcoholism.
Also, since Mr. Hero is so honest, have you asked him if he wants to be an alcoholic?
Does he see that it might take away from a true relationship with you?
Speaking from my own experience, I could not be in any true relationship with anyone
when I was actively drinking.
Beth