Hi, welcome to SR this is a great place to be you will find lots of people who can offer great advice and support.
There will be many people who will be able to offer you better advice than myself but what I can tell you is that if someone doesn't want to get sober and doesn't want help there is nothing you will be able to do until they turn to you and ask for it. I know my family tried and tried to make me listen but i didn't want to and I had to hit rock bottom before I started to get my life sorted out and get myself sober.
Sorry to hear you are in such a difficult situation, wishing you all the very best.