Good morning Pravcha....I understand those feelings of wanting a quick relief to our anxiety but ultimately I would let him reach out to you. 4 days for a 21 year old probably feels like nothing to them but to parents, who tend to internalize a lot of fear, it can seem forever. Ask yourself what the intention is behind wanting to reach out. When I do this I find it is typically my own insecurity relating to the situation. Remember nothing changes if nothing changes...he likely knows you will reach out when you reach your threshold so why should he be concerned with doing any work. It is a difficult balance, and one too many of us parents have to weigh. I would recommend going and doing a fun activity for the day, something the rest of you should enjoy....keep your mind busy and engaged with other positive things....