Once I had 365 days of experience living sober, I also cut back on meetings. I'm sober over 5 years now. I don't go everyday, but I go when I need to or want to. He sounds like hes got his priorities straight, trying to not get exhausted. But, it is his recovery, you have to leave him to it. Are you going to Alanon? You might want to try it and work on you and your inability to control him, instead of staring at him, waiting for the other shoe to drop. Just a suggestion.