Originally Posted by
wicked 
Is it possible to go to the club when he is not there?
Could he view your visits to this club as a way to keep in touch with him?
The part of the club he works in is accessible to members only and he and his ex are the only people who work there, so it will not be possible in the long run to avoid him. I am keeping my visits and interactions to a minimum right now but am hopeful that normal operations will resume at some point in the future!
As for whether or not he views my visits as a way to keep in touch--I am learning that I have no control over how he feels or what he perceives. However, I am trying to be brutally honest with myself about MY OWN motivations for visiting that area. Do I actually need to go there for something, or am I trying to see if he still pines for me, to get a little "fix" of my own? That is where the hard work lies for me currently.