He still emails me and texts me saying that he loves me and that I shouldn't lose faith in him and he hopes we can be together. The more time that passes, the more I realize I don't ever want to be with him again--not because of the situation with the ex, or even because of his drinking--but because of his inability to deal with "life on life's terms" (as I read so helpfully here). I don't respond to his messages, but I already have and will inevitably continue to run into him at the club we're part of in the future.
Hello BoxofRocks,
I think you are off to a great start, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
Is it possible to go to the club when he is not there?
Could he view your visits to this club as a way to keep in touch with him?
You have great insight into your codependency so far, I wish I had your
wisdom at your age.
I am still working on it at 54!
Keep up the good work.
Beth