The provoker
I just read the post on enabling and I am definately the provoker. I like others in that post don't get something though. If I act like nothing happened then why should he care if something did. He only embarasses himself in front of my self and his son. He has convinced himself that his son does not see it. I can not wait for 10 years until he realizes his son does because then the damage will be done to my son. Any financial complications I of course am going to cover because we share money. If he sinks financially, I sink, my son sinks. I have taken pictures of his actions, mostly so I can prove his problem if I ever had to fight for costody, but he still says the pictures are not what they look like or laughs. If I do not let him know it was a problem then I feel like I am enabling him. I take care of me, I shelter my son, but I can not act like nothing happened. Then I would not be taking care of me. The stress of trying to put on a happy face would eat me up.