Thanks all,
I know that following my remarks that you may be dubious that I am deciding not to leave my son with his Grandma for all the wrong reasons but fact is he's only 19 months old and has been going through a really clingy phase. His grandmother lives 300 miles away so he only sees her every few months so he's not used to being left with her all the time. I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving him for that long with anyone, especially if I couldn't get to him quickly. Also it's my birthday that day and he's my favourite person in the whole world......why wouldn't I want to spend my birthday with my favourite person?
In this sense I am responding as a mother not a scorned daughter in law.
On all the other stuff however.......I got work to do, I know. *looks bashful*
xxx