Hello Fedup and welcome to SR. You have found a great place to educate yourself about alcoholism and seek support.
I am happy you have already learned about enabling behaviors from SR. Alcoholism is such a horrible disease, and the alcoholic needs to face its consequences if they ever hope to recover. That's why the most loving thing you can do for your AH is to work on not enabling him anymore.
Others will be along soon! There are many recovered alcoholics on SR who are always very helpful.