Thank you Lexie,
I know he isn't ready. No we won't even begin the process of having kids until he has been sober for at a minimum a year. He got emotional when I made that boundary and I thought, "well maybe this will be what opens his eyes" again stupid me.
I have read a lot of posts and see people who struggle way more than I do and think "Damn it could be a lot worse. Will it get to that point or do I get out now?".
It's nice to see that I'm not alone. Sorry my post was so long but I had to get a lot out. Trust me that wasn't everything, but, I suspect you know that already.