Sandiphoto. I just separated from my husband of 17 years who is still an active alcoholic. But, I have read much literature on everything, even after a person goes into recovery. You really need to go to Alanon. I have read where the marriage can be harder after recovery than when he was actively drinking. You have been playing a specific role as well as he and your son while he was drinking. Now, the roles are changing and it can be very hard. Go to Alanon. I got a lot of literature from there plus the meeting that was so helpful. Good Luck! I hope things work out. I know it won't be easy.