I work with young people and sometimes we provide them with possible answers or we try to name feeling for them to help them e.g. I can see you're struggling at the moment, I'm wondering if perhaps you are feeling anxious or frustrated? Another one we do for our young people is ask them to rate certain feelings on a scale of 1-10 which to date I have never had a young person that doesn't answer e.g. On a scale of 1-10, 1 being really calm and 10 feeling extremely angry where would you put yourself? I always find can open communication.