Originally Posted by
theseithakas 
And I feel like the vibe I get from most ( which I understand) is that if you're not married or have kids together or whatever, you should leave because being with an alcoholic only begets misery.
Being with an active alcoholic is generally dysfunctional and more often than not, completely unsatisfying. Sometimes its downright abusive or dangerous.
However, being with a recovering alcoholic is a whole 'nother story. I do believe people can change. I've seen miracles happen in the rooms of AA. I know recovering addicts who have made amazing life altering changes and become really honorable and upstanding people. Will that be your BF? That remains to be seen.
Bottom line - if you are happy with this relationship and it meets your needs, and he is happy and his needs are met too, then why would you question staying in it?
If things are going well - enjoy that!
P.S. I posted before I read Anvil's post above mine. We pretty much said the same thing! LOL!