You're totally right dandylion. I realize this time how difficult this is going to be after seeing him sober (well...dry drunk) for ten months and then seeing him relapse seemingly out if the blue one night last month. Looking back, I see clearly now that it was very much not out of the blue, particularly for someone not working a program. Who knows if he had been drinking in secret prior to that. Oy. This disease. I suppose I'll just see what's to come.