I read this yesterday and I laughed.
It reminds me of some things I have been going through. Mostly resentments and in some ways wishing some people were different.
I am learning I only do not have the power to change people, or the past, but that guessing what is in someone else's mind or wishing it was different is not only futile but it is really none of my business.
I have to look at it like the second monk. "Oh yeah? Well you can keep it".
In other words I have stop fighting with myself about some thing that is not even a fight to start with. I have made it a fight, not the other person. I have held the resentments, not the other person.
I used to think I liked a good debate (argument) but I was really only fighting with myself because I was not willing to let go. I was the person that was creating the tug of war and keeping the rope going back and forth. I had to let go of the rope.