I really need a hobbie too! My ex was the only thing I ever really focused on in the last year and a half. Its sad really, how I gave up things I once enjoyed, giving him most of my attention.
Most healthy people's hobbies are sports, cooking, reading, voutneering, etc........us codies hobbies usually are PEOPLE.
We do tend to get so consumed we give up so many parts to ourselves.......but believe me it's pretty easy getting all those parts back.....you just have to keep on trying.