Dear Helltoraise.....by the way I like your name--considering what you have just shared with us!! (LOL).
I was just reminded, by your post, that in some asian cultures, the image of the family comes before individuality or personal desires. I is a great sin to embarass or bring shame to the family. I am not trying to make any specific point to you........I am just musing outloud.....again.......
dandylion