I have been seeing a man who has recently made the decision to become sober after struggling with alcohol for 10 years.
10 years is a long time to be "struggling" with alcohol.
If he has been distant and keeping you at arm's length,
why are you
still interested?
What is the best way to navigate this situation?
Imagine yourself in a tugboat with a tsunami coming,
you have 3 months warning,
waves are lapping stronger now....
(cold, detached, numb, anger, pain, sorrow, rehab, recovery,
selfish program)
The tsunami is coming and its name is RecoveringAlcoholic.
Please get to higher, way higher ground before you get sucked in.
to me, it sounds like the worse it gets (closer) the more rationalizations
you have to stay.
It's like staring at the cobra, it will strike you eventually.
I do like what anvilhead said about the dragon and the feather duster.
Unless you have been where he is, and I am guessing you have not,
then you have no idea in this world what he has to do.
You are a
distraction from what he has to do in
my opinion, my opinion only!
Beth
Things had just been progressing remarkably well up until this point, which is what makes me want to tough it out with him.
When did all the detachment and pulling away come from? In the first 3 months?