Dear Morosko, I just gave a book to a friend who is attempting --for first time, to become sober. Today, I was told that he appreciated the book very much--funny and easy to read. It is called "Don't Let the Bastards Get You Down" I ordered it for him off of Amazon.com as a present--I didn't actually read it. It covers basics on what the alcoholic feels in the early weeks/months. His girlfriend took it and began reading it, also.
There is a website that has articles on what the spouse or partner feels (as well a alcoholic) in early recovery. It is:peggyferguson.marriage-family.com. It is a big site. Look for the articles on "The Addicted Family" on the left-hand side of the home page.
perhaps these will help.
dandylion