Thank you all for your responses. Every bit of it makes perfect sense! I can't expect my inlaws to "fix" him or make him want to get help. I do understand that now. It has to come from him and I honestly do not feel it will. I made the mistake of asking him to "please not drink too much" today after he already had a couple. Wrong thing to say at the wrong time. He looked at me like he wanted to tear my head off and said some pretty inappropriate things that I shouldn't be used to, but I am. He was gone all morning cutting fire wood. Not exactly the thing to be doing and drinking but he does. My daughter and I had a wonderful day, then it changed when he pulled up. I know what I need to do and thank you all for the support. I appreciate this board and everyone on it who knows exactly what I (we) are going through.. Pray for me to follow through please!!