Dear KKE, I am soooo sorry to have to say this to you----but, I feel that I must---someone has to for YOUR sake. He will not change as a result of this crisis. You can expect the same thing whenever the next crisis in life occurs. That is how an alcoholic or addict handles all intense emotions. Just when you need them the most--that is when they run to the bottle and feel sorry for themselves.
This forum is replete with tragic stories of those who thought it would get better---until their lives became completely unmanageable and they came here for help.
This miscarriage is (sadly) just a convenient excuse for him to drink---and draw the attention toward himself.
Again, I am sorry to be the buzzkill.....but, hon, you need to know the truth about the reality of alcoholism.
Thinking of you at this difficult time--with much empathy,
dandylion