Hmm, I seem to be kind of the minority opinion here, but I would never expect my husband (who is the A in my life) to reveal to me everything he discusses w/his sponsor or talks about in an AA meeting. That is HIS recovery. I would never reveal to him everything I talk about in an Alanon meeting or w/a sponsor, either. That is MY recovery. We owe it to each other to share the results of our respective recoveries as we go along, but not to share each individual thought or conversation. To me, that kind of constant sharing blurs the edges between the individuals involved in the relationship and results in the kind of boundary-less situation that helped to put me, the Alanon gal, in the situation I'm in.
My 2 cents...