You don't have to make any decisions before you're ready. But there is nothing wrong with information gathering. Make the appt with the solicitor, educate yourself.
There is an AlAnon twist on an old saying: "Don't just do something, stand there!" Meaning don't feel like you have to jump to action if you're not ready. Sometimes it's better to be still, learn, listen. Then you will know what to do.
BTW - I cried in every AlAnon meeting for 2 months! But I learned that it was a safe place to cry. Eventually I stopped crying, and reclaimed my life.