Yurt - I experienced a very strong attraction to another man at about the time I discovered the alcoholism. An old classmate (and former flame) had viewed my profile on Classmates, so I casually send him a message, and he responded, and I responded back, and next thing we are emailing..... and I can't stop thinking about him..... but, we are JUST FRIENDS so it's OK. I was overwhelmed and confused by my emotions to say the least. I did know that if I was having that strong of feelings for another man, there was definately something wrong in my marriage.