Originally Posted by
mstrust 
no question i'm codependent. i don't even think i love him anymore. i care, but it's not like it used to be. at all. i'm working on these issues that keep me hooked. at the same time, i feel bad for him and his situation. it's not my responsibility, but it's hard to let it go.
At some point you just have to do it. Make he commitment and do it. Commit to yourself, not him.