CoD,
What about putting the concerns in writing to her? (without the 6 month deadline)
It may serve the purpose the attorney had in mind without creating the animosity that you don't want at home for the sake of the little one.
Just a comment to share from my experience....I tried very hard to keep the peace in the home by not confronting my A (for years), all the while quietly and secretly thinking about how I needed to change my life. I believe with all my heart that my motivation was keeping things as peaceful as possible for my young boys. However, I know now that this was not my only motivation. The sake of the boys was the motivation that I could feel good about...my other motivations for avoiding taking certain steps did not make me feel as good. FWIW :-)
MamaKit