The attorney wants you to LOOK GOOD in court.
It is a "victim status" worshiping world. Not the real practice, mind you -- just the look.
On the other side of things, it also looks controlling, which is then layers and layers more of rationalization why it is or is not. Again all based on Looks Good and Who Is the Victim.
You are well enough to know that is ALL just layers of BS.
Only one real sort from this side of the keyboard -- What is best for the kid?
Figure that is about where you are coming from, too, what with "dad" in your name.